When a marriage is filled with anger, dysfunction, conflict, and even hate, it seems plausible and even reasonable that it should and will end in divorce. One more thing: You have both spilled your guts about the negative. i am basically utterly devastated and heartbroken, still living in my own home with the man im still utterly in love with, (which i am set to lose as i do not work, have no savings and no where to go, he can keep it due his wage, the mortgage company will not allow me to and he wants all ties severed). The club is or was going to be the venue for our wedding reception and my fianc was talking to the chairman/club manager about plans, telling her sister where everything was going to go and discussing honeymoon ideas etc. Found out i a month pregnant when he got locked up. she wants to fix our relationship but she dosent feel she loves me right now I broke things off with a woman who claimed she "loved me" after 4 months. We dedicated everything to be with each other as we lived separated by the Pacific ocean. She wants to end both relationships between me and her cheating lover. Im still hurt, though we are moving on, and I have no plans on leaving him. Im just ready to move on. Hi What am i doing That is a huge change in life. She actually texted me yesterday (I havent responded) and partly came clean on why we broke up. If this is something where the two of you have remained together and do in all honesty still love each other, then I definitely think that it is possible to fall in love with that same person all over again. He would tell me he wasnt in love with me but then would say he was only saying that. She said she never really loved the guy but he divorced her within a few months of marriage. I dont know if I can or should attempt to work on this. Due to the meds, the sparse intimacy has now turned non existent. Not a hastily written note of love on a paper napkin. You are torn because it would be good to keep the relationship but the feelings just arent there. I was so full of anger and pain, I didnt see my mistreatment of him. Part two: How you feel about the other person. Once you enter your information, youll be directed to a list of therapists and counselors who meet your criteria. My wife has just started an executive MBA which involves travel and I am 100% behind her in making sure she is successful. Those years , I always tend to choose others then him becos I cant be a step-mom ( I told myself ) and seeing after and another.All fails and i still turn back to him for comfort. With all the posts on facebook, i see him doing things with her that he should be doing with me i have no friends to speak of or family i can go to, and as i said i dont work either. She said yesterday give me space chris and Ill contact you when Im ready I made a simple reply by saying will do I promise I wanted to say I promise cause I not even going to be first to txt her or make any contact I I do promise and I hope that promise will also build that trust again but I know I have a lot of work to do. I loved my girlfriend Tanya but whilst I was going through a rough time I spoke to another girl and it relived my stress and made me feel happy.I thought I started to get feelings for this girl (it wasnt I just liked talking)and I told my gf. This past week she saw that I was very unhappy and that it was causing a lot of problems to our relationship so she decided to close the open relationship, now idk what to think. Several months ago I started falling out of love with him. If I raise the subject of why his emotional affair happened, he attempts to validate their relationship using words like Just friends or Its only happened with this woman or He didnt know how to stop calling her. I hate that people drink and drive. He had asked her to join us for lunch on Christmas Day which our daughters were hosting for us all at our home. Now she lives with her baby father although she doesnt like it there 100%. Just wanted to share my story so far. How long were yall together? Generally, people dont change in their deepest core too readily. i want to keep the house, he doesnt, its so unfair. I really do feel horrible for what happened and I love him so much. I consider her my life partner and we both cannot imagine a future together. we were so happy, no coldness at all, though he keeps on posting confusing statuses on fb like, here i am waiting i have to leave soon, and if you risk nothing you will risk everything and so on. "Clean and lose" is bad, but not terrible." Can anyone else relate? It may be a struggle at first but if you are strong you will make it. Its the excitement of the new relationship. He gave me the letters i wrote back, said he will come around our son when he is a better role model and that he doesnt exist to me or my family and never to contact him again. He sent a msg ( during times of clean breakup) that he found out he still have feelings with his ex ( before wifes time) . Shes open to becoming friends eventually and she even said she would probably need at the very least a year to even consider getting back together, but thats ok. And she was a virgin. that she got drunk and tried taking off her clothes. I just want to find a way to rekindle this relationship. ;). Why did you do it? I know I am a little later to this blog, but I wanted to ask your advice. Im honored that so many people have posted but I cant get so quickly to each one. I was still madly in love with her and after a couple weeks we got back together, for the next two years we kept doing this cycle of on and off. I started to think that maybe it was the musicians and artists in my city that I surrounded myself with that were not at the level of commitment and sincerity that I desired, and this led me to believe that I could perhaps find this unreachable creative utopia in a different city. should i go to his place to ask for any apology? Im on a leave of absence from work until 6 weeks after my pregnancy due to anxiety. I suppose I deserve it though. When our wedding song comes on he always wants to slow dance and he tears up but I feel nothing. I love my husband with all my heart, I love my kids and my family and I believe, when there are kids, a marriage is worth saving. Hello everyone, helped me out when i thought my life is lost dont know where its going It all started when the father of my two kids left me and sworn never to have anything to do with me and all effort to get him back prove to be abortive and i decided to let things be the way they are cause i felt my life is lost dont know where its going. That said, if you were disrespectful because you knew something was going on, then right there you have something to think about you were not assertive. Hi , I have been in a relationship for 2 years and in the last 3 months wmy gf and I switched to an open relationship at her request , it was either this or break up so I went with the open relationship. Ive never stopped showing him affection and we are intimate but it isnt genuine. Here is a list of crisis resources that may be helpful: And he kept saying that. Why werent you supposed to join him and the girl? please reply ASAP? He has never lied to me and usually says what he means, but Im lost. He told me he loved me, but not how little or that he was making himself ill trying to feel as he did at the start. He said that Ive lost him completely for good. Could it be that someone has planted the idea that life just cant be good? The other night was the last straw. You might be depressed too. Do I refrain from any words like I love you, I miss you or is ok to give her little words to let her know Im here and thinking of her so much with sorrow, regret and understanding. And to the girl that nuked my relationship for the sake of her own ego, i hope someone breaks you the way you . Luckily, there are clear similarities and differences between these two types of dynamics. actually i tried talking to him but hes talking to me very and replying to me . I would suggest you have a good look inside yourself and ask yourself what, exactly, you are looking for in this relationship. So you grow apart. I made the biggest mistake of my life by cheating on my spouse. However in the meantime is insurance that he had was stopped they could not wait a day to get it resolved which he now has it again. How can I do this. I cry every time I speak to him. Id like to hear your take on my situation. he is 24 and i am 32, he know about it but i cant help but feel that the age gap is too big. Keep trying. He got to know about that. He met me at my car door. Sit down and read new testament. Thanks for ta king your time to read this. Talking for 20 years to a psychoanalyst is not the answer. Cheating and lying could have gone together. on jan 1st of this year(Our 18th anniversary), my partner came home from work and told me he wasnt happy anymore and was no longer in love with me. Weve bee fighting quite a bit and he broke up with me once. This past summer, as my departure to travel neared, my boyfriend became sort of controlling and we argued a lot (we had always argued a lot, but this time, even more). After a week if this I pressed her into telling me what was wrong and she finally said that she isnt happy. We have been seeing each other nearly two years.. He needs professional help as well as AA meetings. Here are 13 signs you know how to love yourself: You Speak Your Mind Practicing Self-Love Can Be A Life-Long Journey Get Support Along the Way With A Licensed Therapist When you can tell others what you think, you show that you value your own thoughts. You will become more attractive when you like and love yourself and dont appear needy. I now find myself alone in a city with a music scene and a state of physical well-being that in many ways turns me off more than the one I left. Yes, people do get angry to hide their fears. The problem is Im almost 38 He never asked me to go with him (we visit each other every 2 months). This means that it is the perfect opportunity for your date to see what kind of man you really are because if she sees that you can relax, then theres a good chance she will as well. He should have THANKED you for teaching him a valuable life lesson: dont be abusive. how ever the problem i have is the age difference. I think things have become so routine, expected and mundane that sexual interest on my end pretty much stopped. Once we started dating he confronted my behaviors and I came clean with all but one of the guys I made out with. So much i just wish things were different i cry all the time and he sees it hell ask what wrong i say nothing of course but deep down inside my heart is breaking and it sux! What can I do? Forget him. He said that he couldnt go a day without hearing her voice & it seems as though it never mattered as to what they talked about .. he just had to hear her. We here at GoodTherapy.org are not qualified to offer professional advice. He gave me a right to go to Mpumalanga if I want to and I never really bothered as I trusted him. It also means having FUN: going out to fun things together the way new couples do. You need to BOTH make an effort to give to one another. My boyfriend and I have been together for three years, until about 5 months ago. Hed ignore my messages for minutes and reply me after hed replied hers. When we do communicate a little its always about the same things: school and work. I have no respect for my husband & certainly dont trust him. I want him home more. But i feel undeserving to be by his side again. The problem is this new life makes me feel anxious and insecure. i love her with all my heart and i want to convey that to her. You dont know who he REALLY is; you dont know what it would be like to live with him. But honestly knowing that hes not here and that hes probably most likely in jail Im not stressed. But we were all drinking so I obviously wasnt making good decisions. I sincerely hope you dont mind I posted a link to TEDH article. Yes, please address this issue of emotional intimacy with someone outside of our relationships with our partners. My son has said who is this man, this is not my father. I want so badly to see him, but I am so afraid to have that feeling of love again. How do I fix this? Then we fought, and i forgave him and i really did put it in the past. That is something he will have to work on. I never said that. Hes been in and out of rehabs for the past three months three days five days 10 days his last one was 22 days and he was feeling good at all excited to be continuing his recovery at another facility. I have been married for 10 years, i say I because i was technically the only one who acted as if i was married. He loves me and wont say leave or hes done. ever since we found out her mom was moving, her attitude has changed very drastically in the sense where I can tell something is bothering her. self wasnt with her, I felt bad for her cos im so The reason is that once the chemicals associated with that giddy first experience of love have warn off (which if nothing goes wrong in the relationship do wear off in 1-2 years), it will be back to life as usual and your husband is not prepared for it. Now he doesnt speak to me and says its my fault because I put him in the box for few hours. Or find someone local to yourself who is intelligent and kind. Were in a long distance relationship and for the past year, Ive been treating him like a dog. She would tell people that I would always only be the stupid girlfriend nothing more because she would be the on,y wife he would ever have. I understand that. She had left her 2nd husband & was house-sitting for friends. I just dont know what to do. Hi I have recently seperated from my husband after 8 years and 3 beautiful kids together. getting pregnant was not what i wanted at the time because i was in university. Yet my husband chose to leave all decisions regarding our daughters education up to me. Few days ago,I decided to tell him that I did not want sex b4 marriage and that he should be patient with me. Im now at a point that my feelings for him are not the same and my affection and attraction is not there. I dont want to compromise and I dont want to keep calling him so as not to look needy..pls help!. This makes it important that the location of your first date should be one where both of you can be at ease and someplace that does not intimidate either of you. Thats few days before appointment date. We dated for 2 years and it just ended after she found out I cheated on her a year ago in 2015 while on vacation in Germany. What should I do? Told him to change for himself, else its not sustainable.and I needed to see him take actions that will guarantee it never happens again. Over the past few months I have dealt with all my demons and getting better but my wife is no longer interested as I hurt her so much. Escorted me inside. I have depression and self esteem issues, as does he. I thought we moved on from this. You can experience emotions that range from admiration to spite, from fascination to boredom and, from illusion to disgust. If he wants you to be upbeat and happy under these circumstances, then he is really out of touch. 2. Next go-around, see a pre-marriage counselor to work on trust issues and be SURE the guy is trustworthy. 2. It wasnt until recently, after my last attempt to make (and change her to suit my needs) her realize these things, and assuring her that I wanted to work on our marriage, that she told me that she didnt know if it was worth it. My wife and I have been together for nearly 6 years, 3 of which are married. Her internet actions are very reminiscent of the previous affair, so i start snooping her messages a bit. . Several hours had passed since we had made the plans and had not heard from him so i sent him a text. I think it would be helpful to talk to a therapist who can ask you broad questions about your life, your family, your history. Weve litterly been up all night talking and Ive cried so much that I have no tears left in my eyes. It got so bad I just stopped going to his moms. Where does this other girl stand ? My final rejection of his efforts to start again are a step to far. So the therapist he goes to cannot be someone who just listens and says, Uh-hun. Is it a therapist who specializes in trauma? We fell madly in love and talked all the time about getting married etc etc. Show him that you mean what you say and say what you mean. I have been in this relationship for 8 months. He says that im the one for him. Hi Anna, He feels cold. We both still love each other immensely. My stupid comment on top of everything else I did ruined everything. Please see a therapist to unravel this. He gets frustrated that I dont trust him but hes willing to do anything to get me to understand. i was in this case the giver and he the taker, i understand now that i played a role in him just taking everything and giving me nothing. At the time he stated i was his princess and told his mom about me.blah blah blah. Every alarm in my heart was going off now. Well the ex finally got a , If your therapist is not able to move from couples therapy to individual with you to help you with how you have cut off your feelings, that is a problem. For example, go back to a special restaurant or rent the first movie you watched together. He let me read there talks and they seemed to be just friends. Since then we gave gone strength to strength, our love life is better than it ever was and we barely argue at all. Not a lot of time seeing each other. Next morning I turn my phone off and leave town for the day. True love is just a special feeling .u love someone without condition without knowing any thing.. She lied down straight in my bed. (When she was heavy I loved her just as much! things were not perfect but the chemitry was there, we had fun and now he has gone back home. I never stressed on sex with her at all. And he will want to share that with you of his own accord, not just when you ask. How do you know when your in love?? Hi DrDeb, He gave a dry hi not even a kiss or hug. Do you offer skype counceling? How do I get back to where we were? After all, you are a quality person! The key to a good relationship is being able to put yourself in someone elses shoes BEFORE you do something that you cant undo. i have a situation i am not sure how to handle it its been about a week an a half so far my husband sit me down and told me the situation, he said i am not gonna leave at this point he said ill give you one more chance but if this situation happens again i am done, now neither one of us has ever cheated on the other and thats not what happen i said some things he didnt like about but he did find out that most of what he was told wasnt true, but heres the reason for this post he told me he would give me one more chance to change and he hasnt told me he doesnt love me anymore hes hasnt said anything like that to my face, a few days after we sat down and talked about our marriage crumpling down i seen a message he sent to a friend of ours and he told her he felt our marriage was like the titanic and then a few posts later or it might of been a few days after i didnt really look at the time and dates he messaged her telling her he is only staying with me cause of our sons sake, heres my problem why wont he just tell me the truth instead of lieing to me, i dont want to keep this going if he clearly isnt happy nor in love with me anymore, thats how i took it he told me one thing and told someone else something different, he doesnt talk ugly to me hes nice to me even when our son isnt around he does spend time with me, i understand hes hurt and upset with me and he has every right to be but i dont know if i should try and save my marriage if i am the only one that wants to save it, am i reading this the wrong way or am i reading it the right way and he doesnt want to be married to me anymore hes only doing it because of our 4 year old its not fair to him nor to our son if he clearly wants out, i dont know if he said it cause hes angry and hurt right now or if he really means what he said i am so confused on this matter i dont know what to say, like i said he hasnt told me hes not in love with me anymore i am really confused on which way he wants to go with me, i had a horrible childhood , never knew my parents, and i grew up without the knowledge of who they were and were they are and what happened to them, so it was not easy. I fell deeply in love with her. As much as I love her, shes making me sick. Please help me on what to do. I was so broken inside I didnt know what to do. Im willing to do whatever it takes to gain back her trust and respect. The beauty of a movie date is that you can sit back and enjoy an hour or two without having to do any work at all. It all blew up on my birthday this year. The first 3 years were great. After reading this article I have a deeper insight into how I hurt my husband. I feel like every time he left me I had a wall build around me that just got bigger and bigger. I am also happy to work with people via Skype. Once winter rolled around, a feeling of discontentment that I have felt before returned to me involving the satisfaction with my career as a musician and artist. He also told me I didnt respect him,appreciate him, and I treated him like a child. Ive told him that it will never happen again. However, I still lived with my parents after being sick for many years. We have been together now for almost a year and he has treated me like sh** the whole time! But now, your new gf is also insecure because of what happened to her in the past. I am trying to be more attentive, do more around the house, and go out with her when she wants. Before you have complete trust, he will be able to explain why he used to do it and why looking at other women means zero to him now. I went into this marriage expecting to be his partner but instead I began to feel like his burden. Thanks! What hurt was that he completely ignored me. I just wish I could get over my own feelings. What about what I suggested doing things that he cares about? Four months after his incident, and we are now trying to forgive each other and start a fresh relationship but I still carry resentment. Hi, I had to reply to this. He told me I should come see him and we can get that thought out my head so I can see how busy he is, I told him I understand but things you say just dont add up neither does it make sense. Especially when its broken in half? IIve been in a relationship for 7 years . Im at the point where Ive completely decided to leave him alone. she said she is still always there for me and cares about me but i think shes saying that to make me feel better. I know that will sound just the opposite of what it seems so let me explain: People use sex as a way to AVOID a real relationship. Is this repairable at this point? After the last time we were intimate he told me he was going to try and date to get past this. You got hurt and betrayed. I would give anything to go back to earlier this year and try again with his honesty. Is this a normal thing? Any advice would be much appreciated. He has 4 children from his first marriage. But this time. It only happens once in a while, like when i hear a song that reminds me of her. We were together for 17 yrs And while it was not all bad there were period of toxic behavior and unhealthy habits that negative impacted our children. We have 2 kids together (2 and 5 years old). Other options. I also believe I will find true love (which I did with her). I just dont understand that, is that what youre supposed to do as a couple, work at your relationship. As parents, being nice is not enough: You have to require discipline from your children and it doesnt seem like they did that. I have been ducking calls from my siblings and friends as they will ask me how I am doing and not good is not what I want to tell them,in case tings do turn around I dont want them looking differently towards my wife if they knew what pain she caused me. I told him I wouldnt hurt him the ways I had any longer. I was caught looking through his moms medicine. How do I make him fall back in love? See what your insurance will cover in the way of a residential treatment program. I am so in love with him, he has two daughters that I adore and love. Is it even saveable? I was there for him through everything. I wish I were at a place in my marriage where Id be willing to give it an attempt. Will I ever get over this pain of always feeling inadequate to other women in his eyes!?!?!? The plan for the first time was for me to be with this man and to video it. I felt like he didnt care when he just didnt know how to react. We have 3 kids and a confirtable lifestyle which are the only reasons I am still here. What.kind of stuff is that i been dealing wit it for a while n nw im juz fed up. But in fact I miss her so much. We talk about getting married in the future and we both know that we want to be long time life partners. I know this is controversial but the chemistry that we share is so great and it never disappears, not even during our crisis. She is basically my everything because I have no family in the states so I did everything with her. He ended up dumping the girl and texting me to meet up and talk. She just told me yesterday that shes looking for a place just for herself and her baby. What should I do? I calmly walked through & without anger, accusation or malice, asked him to please explain what was these bills were all about. I feel like Im really losing him if he doesnt feel as crazy for me like he did before. Long story short, my father got ill and when he was very bad, I relapsed. So being a single mum is also difficult. seriously. I hurt him so deeply. Come to find out my husband has been in a relationship since June of this year with his co worker. And his reasons are quite vague, saying that he feels stuck and trapped and cant see any other way out but to separate. I took all his time and his energy and gave nothing in return. The anger, hurtful words are irrational. I was blamed for not believing that it would happen or for giving him hope. We are due to go counselling very soon but her heart is not in it and I fear my actions have lost me my wife. I cannot cope with another day unfolding & wish as I lay my head down each evening that I do not need to face the awakening of a new day. Should i let him go because i dont deserve him or should i stay and try to win him back? I verge between ok to wanting oblivion, anything but this despair I have knowing one stupid comment has destroyed everything. The thing is, I cant do this without him. He immediately broke down crying, pleading, etc. I feel ultimate guilt, shame, disgust with myself, sorrow for hurting him and his mom And more. My husband was very supportive and did everything a good husband could do. I mean I cared but I told myself that if thats what needed to happen for her to feel better than so be it. I found instead an email he sent to his ex girlfriend asking her to come back to him. He hates head games. I am 4 months pregnant. I dont know what to do. https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/issues/bipolar, If you would like to learn more about intimate partner abuse, please visit this page: Here is what I am hearing from your msg: There is a part of you that lacks empathy, is disconnected. There was no romance, no love, no plan to leave. And a no-repeat is a given-repeated hurt is something that even the mot patient person would hate! I just want to move on I want to love again :(. People tell me she does care and misses me because she talks to them about me at times but I dont feel like she does. Hi dr, Im so deeply in love with a guy I meet online, but we never met yet personal, because we are staying in different provinces. I have started councilling and will continue with that. I met my boyfriend about 11months ago on social media. He was really into me and we said we would marry then he had to leave the country. 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